In Sheep's Clothing — Book Review

Here's what I have learned from In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by Dr. George Simon.

1 & 25 people are sociopaths or 4% of our population.

Most sociopaths are within the walls of our workplace than the walls of our criminal institutions.

Why?

Covert-aggressors hide their tracks and prey on those with a conscious.

Sociopaths, unfortunately, do not possess a conscious and will most likely live a life "winning."

I recently walked away from another sales job due to covert-aggressive nature of the business.

I didn't know how to handle it and it led me to this book.

I started to learn how to take back my life and building a healthy fence within my life.

It's a new operation for me because I, unfortunately, have believed people aren't that bad out there and to give them a chance.

It's not the case and I'm learning to guard myself from others who take advantage of me.

One of the reason why I despise the philosophy of being a chameleon, shape-shifter, or acting in a job or in life is because it's the idea taking advantage of others.

I hate it so much because I allow to be taken advantage by people for the sake of harmony.

Life is so complex and grey that it's leading me to question a lot of what I grew up in.

I don't like myself or others people being taken advantage, so hopefully this helps anyone feeling taking advantage in their lives.

Let's go ahead and map the covert-aggressive person.

Criteria for a Passive Aggressive person:

• Pushing to have their way

• Won't take no for an answer

• Always wants to win

• Ready to push buttons and instigate

Criteria for a Covert-Aggressive person:

• Rarely gives you a straight answer to a straight question

• Operates in the grey and omits often

• Always makes excuses for hurtful things

• Try to make you feel guilty and places people in a shame cycle

If you find you're in the snares of a predator person, here is a new blueprint.

Ве:

• Disciplined

• Affirmative and take action

• Principled take responsibility

• Able to speak for yourself, use I statements often

• Able to speak of what you want and openly

• Set own personal limits, flesh out your boundaries

Understand:

• When do you fight and when you don’t fight

• Your personal success and dignity

• Everyone is the same, right?

• Wrong, even more wrong within a church

• Sociopaths are in those places and you shouldn't drop your guard

• Someone is trying to get what they want

DO NOT:

• Accept their excuse

• Don't tolerate the behavior in question.

• Make threats or try to out-win them

• If you deceive yourself, you spiral out of control and you become confuse.

WARNING SIRENS of a social predator:

• Guilt trip

• Shaming

• Victim Role, the aggressor places themselves as a temporary victim

If you see a tactic, call it out and establish your perimeter.

If a home has a fence to protect from outside dangers, so should your life.

Avoid one-down and establish balance of power.

Get into a practice of a good win-win scenario.

Know your resolve will be tested and your buttons will be pressed.

Don't be swayed by tactics and remind yourself they're taking advantage of you.

Coming from a variety of different chaotic environments, I can safely say both realms are almost the same.

Right now, I’m tired of the games and finally learning how to understand sociopaths and passive-aggressive people.

Question to chew on:

How do we improve our communities’ morales, spiritualness, and conscientiousness?